Hi so I’m at sahm I have a toddler and my partner works full time. I’m on UC I have a heart condition but getting treatment. We do 50/50 bills and rent. He gets around 1,500 a month rent and bills is 300 each. I only get 360 a month. So I’m left with practically nothing each month. We had an argument about money. He said “my money is my money and it’s not my problem that you don’t have money”. I was mad because he’s going out drinking and gigs, fancy dinners with family (we weren’t invited) and he’s going abroad with his family too he doesn’t even realise how selfish he is being he never wants to spend time with me and our daughter he sits on his phone all day never read her a book or done bath time. He’s never even spent a night without me around whereas he’s went drinking for 12 hours without letting me know he’d be gone that long he left at 2pm. Meanwhile im left doing all the childcare and paying for all my daughters necessities and needs while he lives this lavish lifestyle. His hours aren’t even bad he works three days and is off three days.
and I felt so upset last night he started looking for jobs for me I’m going back to university in September I have no childcare I can’t afford it and my daughter can’t start nursery until March :( I feel so down I just want a happy positive partner who brings us up instead of being so cruel and negative. Is this financial abuse?