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Between a rock and a hard place

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Andrew2 · 06/05/2022 12:03

Hey everyone,

Don't know if this is too vent or to look for advice.

Me and may partner have been together for 10 years, we own a house together and have a little 3 year old who is my world.

Over the last 12 months my feelings for my partner have dwindled, I know longer love her the same way I used too, we're rarely intermate and I can probably count on 2 hands how many times we have been since we had our girl.

I care for her a huge amount, she's the mother to my child and we've put our blood, sweat and tears into building and improving our home for us all. It just now feels like we're housemates. She know's how I feel and is trying to make it better but for me it's just not there anymore. It's not a toxic atmosphere there's no resentment and we're civil, it's now just tense like there's a constant elephant in the room because I know she wants it to be like it was.

The idea of not been around my little girl every day kills me, I couldn't afford to leave and then rent. The only thing I could probably do is take money out of the house to buy my own smaller place but I'm then unsure if my partner would be able to afford this place on her own. (Obviously i'd be still supporting financially for my girl). Financially we'll be better off in a short while with a few things paid off and I know that I need to be here until that point so that we're then comfortable on that side of things.

I know that if we didn't have our little girl then I'd of already made up my mind.

Just looking for any advice or anyone who has been in a similar situation?

OP posts:
LondonerWith2 · 28/06/2022 22:05

I think just be honest? And clear, its so essential to be clear.

I'm currently in a rock and a hard place because my ex (we split in Jan) has been saying for months he's unhappy but wants us to work and sleeping with me. To yesterday telling me he's been over it for months and is already contacting other people.

I'm blind sided, cause he was never straight about his feelings.
Yes he said he was unhappy but then cuddled watching moana and making love regularly?
I know the sex thing isn't the same but my advice is clarity. She'll never thank you for continuing while not really being there in the heart.

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