Want to move out with kids.

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Hi
After another epic argument, yet again in front of kids I've decided I need to move out. It's my partners house so I will need to move with our 2 kids. I was wondering how I would go about moving? I work part time so would need help with rent. Would I just search for a property and UC would help me with rent? I'm not sure how it works.

Also to add, he says if I want to move out, then I need to go today: eg my parents house. But that's not feasible to just ask my parents to take me in with 2 kids. I really don't want to ask them.
Is it unreasonable to think we can live together until I find somewhere to live ?

Although he has no obligations towards you, he does towards his children. This means you could legally compel him to house his children and by association you, as the primary care giver. In effect allowing you to stay in the house, without him, for a period of time or until there is a change in circumstances. It won’t give you any ownership rights over the house, and at some point you would have to find your own home.

This being the case you might want to explain to him that he doesn’t hold all the cards and he cannot be so high handed. Personally I’d use this as a lever to get more time to move our rather than stay on. I’d also ask him to be willing to act as a guarantor for the rental his children will live in, if that is needed. I suspect it might be if you rely on UC to rent. But don’t drag this out unnecessarily as it puts a stress on Co parenting.

But the best thing you can do is break all ties between you and him. Leaving him responsible for just CMS and being a decent Co parent with you.

Remind him that you should now be focused on giving the children a proper home and being amicable co parents. It’s in both your interests but more so the children’s to find a decent rental nearby with space.