Birthday and Christmas presents

[allybruce]

My son and daughter-in-law are getting divorced. She has written to me asking me not to give her presents for birthday and Christmas in future. Should I ignore this as we have always given her generous presents. I thought maybe I cud send her vouchers instead? Would welome your views.

I know this will be disappointing to hear, if you have enjoyed a good relationship with her in the past, but I would heed her wishes and not get her anything. Maybe you could send a card instead, and put a note that you would like to keep in touch if that's something she would like once she has had a chance to process the divorce.

Why would you ignore her request? She's asked you not to send her gifts. Don't send her anything.

It seems like she wants a clean break and not to remain part of your family, respect that.

You gift is removing the obligation for her get you something in return.

Please respect her wishes. Why on earth wouldn't you?

Thank you x