my husband and I have been together for 3 years. We have a child together too. When our child was born he hardly berry used to pick her up. It was me who was awake all night. Not even one night he ever said to me “hey u try get some rest don’t worry about the baby I’ve got this”. That’s when our problems started. I have always had this problem with him and I always express it too. And he promises and reassured me that he loves me and he wants to stay in this relationship and the reason why he doesn’t give me attention is because he doesn’t realise his doing anything wrong. Since our child turned 7 months he has been really good with her and they have a great bond. Even with sex my husband rarely ever initiates it. It’s always me. I’m so frustrated we have sex maybe 2-3 times a month and even that I feel like his only having sex because I asked. He doesn’t do any house work himself, if dishes are laying around he won’t use his initiative to do any. I cook clean and do everything what am I doing wrong for him to treat me like this? everytime i feel like leaving and I speak about it he reassures me and this is happening again and I can’t feel like this. Anymore. I feel alone but I’m not alone. If I’m cooking and I ask him to look after our child he says after my game. I wait. His games take forever but I still wait. But why do I need to wait? Why can’t his games wait? He said to me once when our child was 1 years old who is now 2 why are you at home all the time all women work. Which ofcourse I understand but I couldn’t work at that because of covid and first time mum I didn’t want to leave the house but even then I got myself a job and I’m still working now but I’ve done all these things and I see no improvement? I say to myself every time that this is the last time I’m going to give him one more chance. Today earlier I came back from work, I done the bed, I started to cook, child done a poo so I told him to change her as I was busy cooking. He said ok after my game. 35 mins went by and I realised he didn’t change her I reminded him again. He said yeah I know I said after my game” so I turned off the cooker and went to change our child because she would’ve got a sore bum. And since then I’ve just been so upset because why doesn’t he understand this stuff? Am I going crazy? Every time he says im over reacting and I don’t even know why im crying which is what I belive every time. I would really appreciate if anyone could read this and reply back
thsbk you so much