I have for a while read a lot of comments on peoples relationships and often like to hear from the male point of view.
I know this is mainly a “mums page” however many men use these forums too.
my story is being happily married husband to my beautiful wife and three children. Like most relationships there’s been many hard times but also a lot of fun, happy moments that always makes me smile.
all three of my wife’s pregnancies had forms of depression/post natal but seemingly got worse Unfortunately after each child.
im doing my best to summaries as best I can as there’s a lot of parts I’m not comfortable writing (the relationship never had any abuse/violence) all seemed like a happy “normal” family.
sadly after my third child was born my wife suffered heavily with PND… to the point she left me and took the children with her. A period of time passed where I was unable to see them due to her accusing me of things (nothing proven or followed up) just excuses to leave.
anyway as times passed we communicate Amicably, we are sererated, not through my choice but sadly like alot of women she never seemed help so as the partner I’m left wondering what if and could we get back together again after the dust has settled.
many months have passed and I’m so scared to tell her how much I miss her and still love her, the children have been affected alot aswell but they’re all amazing and I’m so proud. I’m supportive, I see them now regularly which is my focus.
because they were taken from me I’m living daily so scared of I try speaking to her it’ll trigger her off and she will stop me seeing them. She’s up and down with me, says where it’s like the old her, chatty, flirty and a pleasure to be around… other times like I don’t exist anymore and I get blanked.
as I say it’s been months since this separation happened and I only focus on the children, I work or I see them, atm I’m happy with that as they’re my life but I believe she has been adventurous with who she’s seeing most of the time when I have the children… I know it’s her choice, it’s her right to do whatever she wants and as we are seperated I can’t stop her… just would appreciate how on earth I either talk to her and at least air my feelings as a last ditch hope it’ll work out or how I mentally deal with the separation as I struggle daily, it’s the moments alone I find hard, I miss my children so much, I was and still am a very hands on parent and that part I wouldn’t change for the world.
just looking for some help in coping with separation after PND really or hearing other peoples stories
thank you to those who read this