Any advice would be appreciated.
I need to leave a relationship I am very uncomfortable in. To keep it brief (I could write a book) I have realised over the past few years I am in an abusive relationship (after yrs thinking I must have contributed to his behaviour). After I said something last week that he felt was ill timed he called me a horrible name and bullied me. I have had enough, so am not speaking to him and want out. I have asked him to leave but he says he won't. He keeps trying to engage me, I believe in the hope it will all be forgotten and go back to 'normal' like it always has before. We have a 12 Yr old child together. My partner has now turned the tables on me and , IMO, being very manipulative and suggesting to our child that I am the person upsetting the family dynamic. I have explained to our child that I am not prepared to speak to someone who bullies and calls me horrible names (my child says 'I am not surprised). Is it fair on my child to hear this from me (I would add I am not trying to break their relationship, I am encouraging our child to send time with him)? And, how much do I tell my child about my intentions to not be in my relationship?