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Fallen out of love with husband

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RachieC00 · 21/04/2022 13:28

Hello, I was wondering if anyone has been in my position. I have been in a relationship with my husband for 16 years married for 6 we have a 3 and 4 year old (16 months apart) I have been very unhappy for a few years but didn't realise quite how unhappy until gaining emotional support elsewhere at the end of last year. The things I thought were OK in my married life... No support, him working all the time, no sex life, sleeping in seperate beds for years etc actually I realised are not normal. I feel I have fallen out of love with him. I love him as a friend and as the father of my children but I have no desire for him anymore and God he infuriates me in every way. I don't want to have sex with him or any physical contact and when we do it's so awkward as I can't pretend I want it. I know this dwindles in long term relationships anyway but I literally don't want him near me. We have been trying marriage counselling and I have even been referred to a counsellor for me as an individual as there was thought I may have depression or delayed post natal depression which I don't I just think my husband needs a reason for me not wanting to be with him anymore. I have 2 young children so don't want to disrupt the household too much but at the same time I hate being at home and dread alone time with my husband. Just wondered if anyone has had this and has either managed to make it work or seperated but managed to keep the family unit together somehow. The problem is atm I have no will to try and make it work and I can't seem to snap myself out of that mindset. Thanks in advance for any advice.

OP posts:
Mumof3confused · 21/04/2022 14:30

I could have written this, unfortunately I could not make myself love or desire my husband again. We have just filed for divorce.

You might want to put this in the Relationship chat?

RachieC00 · 21/04/2022 16:01

Mumof3confused... Thank you so much, I will copy and paste in to their.. Thanks for your honest reply though its good to know I'm not alone and others have been in this situation :)

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Mumof3confused · 22/04/2022 00:08

If you have a search here there are lots of women in your situation!

Namechanger250 · 23/04/2022 16:09

Make plans to leave. I stayed in a marriage for 24 years feeling the same way you do. Shit hit the fan at menopause. If you look through the relationship board you will find my post.

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