Husband walked out - what now?

[Parsley91]

I’m left with my three kids under the age of five and I house that I own but is in the middle of a kitchen/bathroom renovation that we weren’t able to finish months ago due to lack of money/debts. I have a full time job I am supposed to be at tomorrow 6am but no one to watch my children while I work. I have more debts than I can think of.

What the hell do I do? I have no friends and I am not ready to face my judgemental family with this

Go back to your home and ask him to leave . If the house is yours you should have stayed unless abuse etc. if that’s the case go to court and get a court order . Get real life support and if there is abuse call the police

@theremustonlybeone she hasn't left the house?

OP, I guess first step is contact work and tell them you can't come in tomorrow and take it from there.

There’s no abuse and I haven’t left the house, he has. I am the main income earner, he will be earning barely enough to keep himself so any child support I would potentially get is pretty much nothing

If you haven’t already, contact step change about consolidating debts?

One step at a time. Don't think too far ahead right now. What will help you right now / tomorrow..? Sounds dramatic in how this has happened. Can you not go in to work? This is a very reasoned situation to not go in. Honestly. Just say you have a personal sitiuation. You are within your right to give yourself time to think and work out what to do next.

How supportive will your work be?

Di you think your H might try to come back?
Agree with stepchange for debts. Once you have a plan in place you will be able to relax more.

Call in sick tomorrow
Phone a solicitor

For now that’s it
Then breath
Take it day by day

What childcare can/will/does he do ?

When this happened to me I was signed off for a week with stress. I work from home so I could muddle on after that but you might want to book a drs appointment so that you can be signed off for longer. If your husband has been sleeping around get checked for STD.

If you have a joint account move half the money into your account. If you don't have your own account get that set up tomorrow.

Sleep and eat.

Try and tell one friend or family member who will come over and listen. No one can solve anything at the moment but you need support.

You are in shock which is part of the grief reaction.

If you need a task then start looking for financial information so that when you speak to a lawyer you have the information to hand.

Sleep and eat.

Oops sorry I misread your OP. Watch out that he doesn’t suggest he is the main childcare and you end up paying him maintenance .