Dating after divorce

[CordeliaBrideshead]

My Ex and I split up in August 20 after 20yrs together and 15yrs of marriage. We had to live together for another year but finally live apart.

I've struggled with the end of my marriage and losing my identity as a married woman even though I drove the divorce after years of unhappiness but finally feel ready to 'get back out there'.

Everyone says I should leap into bed with someone but I actually want more than that. Though it's weird my Ex is the last person I slept with. And he went straight into a new relationship which made me feel v odd and still does.

I live in the country but visit London regularly. I'm going to join a private members club there and have just joined a local theatre (to have a go at acting) and a walking group. The divorce diet has wiped away a stone and a half and I'm getting my teeth whitened and cries replaced. Just to feel better and have more confidence as I'm 55.

I am a bit unsure about dating apps. What is your experience/advice regarding them?

How long after your separation /divorce did you know you were ready to date again?

They're generally weird places, but it's a reasonable way to dip a toe in. The typical go to one's are Bumble.

Don't wait around. There'll be plenty of idiots, but there'll be plenty of nice people too.

You're figuring out who you are again. Just go I with the attitude of meeting people and seeing what happens to help figure that out. You'll either find someone you like being with, or you've met a whole load of new people on the way as you figure out your new life. None of any type of meeting has to be with the mindset of finding a new "the one".

It's a hell of a ride, I promise you, but don't wait around - I think you'll never necessairily feel ready for something, so be curious, do it on your terms and take it with the approach of figuring it all out again.

Good luck.

Sorry this is so late & not helpful. I'm in a similar boat (although still stuck living with him so far-how the .... did you do a year?!! Medal.)
How are you getting on? Any advice?

There are loads of dicks out there, but some good ones!!

met my gf on there and totally in love. So it does work. A lot of frogs though to get through.

be prepared for no replies to messages, people that take days to reply, pictures that look very flattering compared to real life.

I was lucky, it turned out I was at school with her best mate so it really helped with the trust issue knowing same people.

look at it as a bit of fun. A drink with someone is more fun than watching corrie!!

Great advice @Cambsdad77, thanks. Glad it's worked for you. I'm definitely not ready yet but good to know it's not all awful!