There's a non molestation order but without occupation order so we all live together while we divorce. It's complicated but there's a court order for custody while we live under the same roof. I'd move out if it wouldn't be breach or the court order, and he's being very careful to stay the right side of the law so I can't protect the children from him by insisting on supervised contact. However
I deem the children unsafe with him unsupervised largely based on their father's history with them. Although I took it to the police, they couldn't action it because it was historical and they said they'd do something about it if it happens again now. But exH's being ultra-careful to 'behave' while all eyes are on him, though we all know it won't last because none of his promises ever have.
ExH has creating terrible doubt about me to our son, who told me last night he just doesn't know who to trust anymore. Previously it was mad enough he wasn't able to trust his dad because his dad kept lying, but now the lies about me have undermined my son's faith in my trustworthiness too.
I feel desperately sad that a child his age has no adult he can trust, and I so much want to support him. I have stayed completely true to my word, unlike his father, and yet the doubt still exists because of the toxic implications from the other parent.
I just want my child to be able to trust somebody in his childhood and if it now can't be me because of what ex has said about me, then who can it be - how can he be supported to feel safe in the world with a trusted adult?
I am at such a loss with what to do. Can anyone help?