Can anyone help me?

[Whiteminnowfish]

I am in a really difficult position and I don't know where else to turn

Will try and keep this brief as possible.

Dw left me nearly 3 weeks ago.

I work part time and earn £730 per month.

Dw was abusive to me and dd. I've informed relevant authorities about this.

I've applied for Legal Aid and Universal Credit- I don't qualify as we have 2 flats we let out. Mortgage on them are more or less what they are worth.

I can't get a full time job at the moment due to daughter attending appointments every Fridays. This will go on for most of the year.
Both parents need to attend appointments so no leeway in that.

If I am a single parent on such a low income how can I afford to make ends meet?

I dont know if stxw will still pay into the joint account to cover bills.

I don't know where to turn for help. I feel stuck and wonder whether I will end up in a refuge or something.

Please can someone help me as don't know where to turn now and what my options are

You need to go back full time and negotiate with your employer the appointments like every other parent does

Sorry to sound harsh but that’s the reality

@millymolls

You need to go back full time and negotiate with your employer the appointments like every other parent does

Sorry to sound harsh but that’s the reality

I've thought that but I will I manage with child care during holidays?

Stxw has been reported to social services- she may not be able to look after her

Sell the flats.

What are the appointments for that you both have to attend ev

*every week ?
People can’t afford that much time off work, and I’ve never known that happen in the health service.

Have you posted about this before ?
The two flats sounds familiar.

@GeneLovesJezebel

*every week ? People can’t afford that much time off work, and I’ve never known that happen in the health service.

Trauma therapy

Selling the flats would be a long process and stxw would need to agree

Have you spoken to a solicitor yet ?

If DD has a condition which requires weekly appointments, have you checked eligibility for DLA?

@GeneLovesJezebel

Have you spoken to a solicitor yet ?

No.

I can't get Legal Aid because of owning flats.

Can't afford a solicitor

@Flexitarian

If DD has a condition which requires weekly appointments, have you checked eligibility for DLA?

Would trauma therapy be eligible for DLA?

Hi OP. Sounds stressful.

Will DD be residing with you? Is your intention to stay in the family home or to move into one of the flats?

Full time is possible for instance compressing your hours over four days not five or having Fridays off and working one weekend day.

With childcare during the hols it is a nightmare but you have to use holiday clubs, holiday nanny etc.

If you don't qualify for any UC help then you can use childcare vouchers through your employer that will give 20% off as long as the provider is Ofsted registered.

Are you in a union at work? If so you can usually get an initial legal consultation

Sorry to sound harsh, but you pooh-pooh selling one of the flats because "it's a long process and you'd have to get stbxw to agree", but you can't just hold on to the flats and claim benefits - it doesn't work that way. You will simply have to start the long process and get the agreement of stbxw. Surely the flats will have to be sold/divvied up in your divorce anyway?

I agree with the reality that you will have to sell at least one of the flats, and agree how to share any equity. In the meantime you will also need to look at working more hours and juggling how to fit that around your child's appointments. do you have any family who could help you at all?

@Crumbs22

I agree with the reality that you will have to sell at least one of the flats, and agree how to share any equity. In the meantime you will also need to look at working more hours and juggling how to fit that around your child's appointments. do you have any family who could help you at all?

I've got no family other thank a sister who lives 30 miles away

Working parents use mixture

Friends
Parents of childrens friends
Holiday clubs
Family
Annual leave etc fir holidays

It’s what we do

I know I sound harsh and I know this is stressful but in the nicest possible way stop saying what you can’t do and start setting in motion what you can
Sell the flats
Look for full time work
Apply for cms

Start taking charge

Hi OP, I remember your last thread.
So sad for you and your dd

You will need to do as pp are telling you. I don't think there are any shortcuts, sadly.

Childcare like hundreds of other lone parents do.

DLA looks at long term physical and/or mental health conditions and the impact they have on the person’s life. So if your child is suffering PTSD and it has a significant impact, and is a long term condition then yes, you may be eligible.

However, it’s not a simple case of ‘they have it, here’s some cash’. It is a complicated (and often upsetting) form which you would be well advised to get advice on.