Ex h convicted for harassment and stalking

[Jane1978xx]

Has anyone been through their ex partner being arrested and convicted of stalking or harassment? The police are going to take him in next week and charge him. It’s been a long 2 years of so much happening and finally it’s being taken seriously. I am worried as they have offered no support really and I am worried about the impact on the children. He doesn’t harm them in any way but does speak badly of me. The harassment has been of many forms and also to my parents and friends as well. I don’t want him to be punished as such just to leave me alone and I also think he needs psychiatric help. All his friends and family have cut me off so I couldn’t ask them for help.

Maybe you hurt him badly cheating ?.
What a disgusting comment- both an assumption and justification for criminal behaviour.

@Jane1978xx I have had experience of being stalked and harassed, not an ex though, and still am to a degree (difficult to explain on here). I really wonder how much of this sort of thing goes on because I'm horrified by it.

@Maxacers - who gives a shit what's going through his tiny mind?

Focus on the op here, please.

Op, ask the police if they have a liaison officer who can help you or who you can talk to. Focus on your own support network. You could contact the Suzy Lamplugh Trust or Protection Against Stalking for advice.

You have done the right things reporting him. You don't deserve to be abused like this.

He sounds like a shit dad if he is badmouthing you to the dc - parental alienation is illegal.

Wishing you strength 💐

Good luck it’s hard to get a conviction of harassment unless you have a lot of solid evidence .
We did including reports going back 8 years and in the last case excellent quality Cctv

But not an ex dh but a neighbour who harassed us then committed a serious crime in our street
Convicted in the crown court
Restraining order of no contact with no end date ( which is really hard to get ) most have a end date or run to the end of the sentence given .
Exclusion order so can’t come within two hundred meters of my street

My advice is always push for the harshest punishment possible. Any effort to be kind or reasonable is taken as weakness on your part. It probably goes against your nature but you'll save yourself pain in the long run.