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Divorce/separation

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Seperation after buying a house less than 6 months ago

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FacingDivorce · 01/03/2022 09:59

My marriage has broken down less than 6 months after moving into our new house. We have a child under 3 and I am looking for practical advice on what happens but also how to navigate this in an amicable way with the least impact on our child.

We have had lots of discussions and tears and there has been many wrongs in our years together but ultimately the love has gone. H has been advised by other people who have been through the same that a separation period may help rekindle things so not to make rash decisions but I suspect it is long past that.

The house needs some major work doing, neither of us can afford the mortgage without the other and we could afford the house and another place for the other person to live so it's looking likely he will be in one bedroom and the toddler and me in another for some time.

I have no family locally anymore and haven't spoken to anyone in RL about this as I am just not ready too.

I am most scared about how we navigate the house. I want to get it ready to sell but am aware it's likely to be in negative equity after only a few months.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

OP posts:
Mum2be2022 · 01/03/2022 16:13

I’m in the same boat but I’m 5 weeks pregnant and my partner is refusing to let us sell the house till I’ve given birth. My family are also not local so I want to move back home!! I didn’t want to read and not post even though I don’t have the answer

FelicityPike · 01/03/2022 16:18

@Mum2be2022

I’m in the same boat but I’m 5 weeks pregnant and my partner is refusing to let us sell the house till I’ve given birth. My family are also not local so I want to move back home!! I didn’t want to read and not post even though I don’t have the answer
Move home before you give birth. Sorry to derail your thread OP.
Ginpasta · 20/03/2022 12:18

Hi, this happened to me. We put the house on the market. I changed the joint mortgage into my name and ported the mortgage to a new smaller property. I ported the mortgage to avoid having to pay any mortgage early settlement fee. It was fairly straightforward to do. We didnt have negative equity to deal with. Hope you get something sorted. Nothing worse than having to live together in this situation x

gogohm · 20/03/2022 12:31

If the house is big enough and you can be amicable don't rush it, we stayed in the same house for 7 months then he moved out;we could afford this) in your case I would try to both stay in the house until the sale progresses

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