How long does it take to get court order?

[clpsmum]

My stbxh is being an utter prick tbh and making life as difficult as he can. He is very controlling. Too me to court last year for access to his children then got a court order and ignored it.

We've been separated 3 years and are still no closer to divorce because of him ignoring solicitors letters and just generally being awkward.

I need to sell the marital home and get divorced as it is affecting my mental health now. He is still ignoring all requests for financial information so we can make a start on proceedings so looks like I need to get a court order. Does anyone have any idea how long this takes? I just want to get house sold and get out of here tbh

I am in Scotland if that matters

I have no idea, but hugs he sounds a nightmare

Do you have a solicitor?

I think you can just start the divorce process, as you've been separated for 3 years. I'm counting down the days until we've been separated 2 years so I can divorce too. If the kids arrangements have already been Court ordered, it should be a bit more straight forward. The financial side might be difficult if its not already agreed who gets what.

I'm in Scotland too so will be watching for more experienced people to come along.

Thanks ladies. I can't go for divorce yet as access not sorted. Because he has broken the court order and completely ignored it I now have to go back to court to try and get the access case closed. It's an absolute nightmare and that was a typo it's actually been 5 years not three.

I do have a solicitor thankfully but she's not the most forthcoming

Is the law clear that you can't sort the divorce until access is agreed? That's not the case in England. And anyway, he's got his court order, tough if he's not sticking to it?

@Fuuuuuckit apparently so according to my solicitor. Seems ridiculous to me tbh

Is it time to consider a different solicitor who has a great track record in achieving a settlement in these kind of situations?

My partner is going through the same thing, being stonewalled by his ex when it comes to finances. He's been separated many years & there's still the house (which she's living in) to be sold.

Word of advice, from experience.

Get yourself a solicitor.
Don't sweat the small stuff, get straight to ultimatum territory and get it straight to court.

My partner is doing both children and finances at court simultaneously, so far, so good.