Stbx has filed for divorce. We’ve been struggling for a very long time, since I started learning the meaning of words such as gaslighting, coercion and understood that silent treatment could actually be abusive. He’s said he won’t do mediation. We aren’t talking, the atmosphere at home (2 kids) is awful, stressful and not healthy for the children. He’s absolved himself from any responsibility for sorting it out and left it to me.
But it is SO expensive :(
I’m looking at about 3k solicitors fees for the divorce. 2.6k mortgage redemption fee. 5k for 50% of the estate agents fees,15k stamp duty on a 3 bed semi (we live the south east, it’s very expensive and I can’t move away from sen child’s school) 2.5k conveyancing+removals. Then, as I go around doing things I realise I’m going to need to buy things like the kids beds, sofas, washing line, duvet covers, wardrobes…
All of this, just to have a house with the max mortgage I can afford and scraping by to pay the bills, as stbx has the career, not me.
This aside, the timescales are so long - I can’t see it can possibly be any shorter than 6 months to sell a family home and move to 2 smaller properties. But the atmosphere is intolerable at home - no communication for about 70% of the time and angry recriminations that I’ve been plotting all along to take all his money for the rest of the time. And 2 kids in the middle of it all :(
Bloody hell, I wish I never got married in the first place :(
Someone tell me about the light at the end of the tunnel.