Is this wrong

[Anonymousaga]

This has been posted elsewhere but I wanted to get more views...

I've become friendly with a lady who was my ex's ex, basically he has a child with her and I didn't find out until we had separated and I was going through child Maintenance for our child. A test she contacted me and it turned out she and my ex had a daughter and my ex had nothing to do with her, refused to pay CM and she had to fight to eventually get it through his work.

He payed CM for our child for a bit then he stopped and I had to go through CMS too.
However this OW told me that he has started to pay her off his own back now as well as also getting the child Maintenance from him....she said she doesn't think he realises he's paying her child Maintenance because it comes out of his wages before he sees it or something....so in effect she's getting about £400 a month for one child. He's on 30k a year. Is this right? Not sure if I should say something because he's paying double what he should be?

Just to add, I am friendly with the ex, never met her however we message. And although I feel funny knowing that she is getting more money than he realises off him I'm also worried that if he did find out that he would go to CMS and she would have to pay all the CM she received back...would this happen?

I don't know about paying it back but the amount sounds right (ish) I used to get £300 per month when ex earned 25k with no other kids but lots of things affect this. There's a good calculator you could use? Kindly though, is it your business?

No it's not my business to butt in, I just feel abit funny knowing. Guess I just wanted to share it cause I felt it bothering me, specially since I saw him tonight when he dropped DC off and he was talking bout his debt problems...
Thank you for your response.

I didn't mean it as an attack btw. You could tell him if you wanted but I'd stay out of it personally

No I know Thats why I asked, should I just butt out cause it's none of my business or stop this horrible feeling of holding a secret and say something. I had posters from the other thread say it's none of my business so I guess I'll just leave it up to them. Thank you again.

Bear in mind if she has to collect through CMS he will have to pay an extra 20% admin fee on top. That's his fault for not paying though, serves him right.

Possibly this amount doesn't reflect that he also has a child with you though.

The deduction would be made on his payslip, even though he doesn't receive the cash, so of course he sees it and is aware of the payment.

Maintenance between your ex and his ex is nothing to do with you, so I wouldn't raise it with him, if I were you.