The reality of leaving

[Estherpologist]

Following on from a couple of other posts recently, what is the start of being divorced and on your own really like?
I don't mean the relationship with your ex. I think I really just mean the logistics of finding somewhere to live, disentangling stuff with schools, banks, TV licences, shopping for a microwave because you got the toaster, waking up alone and knowing no one is coming home?
I'm sure it's really mixed good and bad, but I just want to know what to expect before I do something that can't be undone.

I’m pleased I ended a dead marriage so jo regrets there. I feel better knowing he isn’t in the house but I need to sell the family home and find somewhere else which means I’m living in limbo atm. My divorce isn’t finalised yet as we are still at the settlement phase.
I have ended up with the biggest share of child responsibilities so that can be tough at times as I work FT in a demanding role.
I was so alone in my marriage that I don’t feel any different on that score but I do feel lonely in the evenings (kids are teens and live in their rooms) so not sure what to do! My marriage was sexless and no affection for over ten years. I had to accept that I didn’t see him in that way.
No regrets. No guilt.

Separating bills etc. was easy

Following as I have been wondering too. Not so much about him but the practicalities. What happens to the Internet/tv bill if he wants sports channels and fast speed but you don't? What about the electric if you can cope with blankets and hot bottles but he ramps it up to 25C? I would have to stay in the house until its sold but would have to be supercareful with spending.

Quite a lot of admin if you change your name back but otherwise it was fine. My ExH took some stuff from the house which just meant I got to replace it with things I actually wanted. Its also amazing to be able to make all your decisions on your own and not have to think about what anyone else wants (except your children if you have them of course). Probably the only thing I found challenging was dealing with things when they went wrong like the fence coming down. My ExH was useless and I did all this stuff myself anyway, but at times it did feel a bit like I had a lot to do and no one to share the pain with.