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Housing options after divorce

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WingingIt90909 · 22/02/2022 10:39

Hi all, I'm going through the early stages of separation/divorce, and trying to work out my options for accommodation.
We currently have a mortgage on the family home, and a decent amount of equity. If we sold tomorrow and split profits 50/50, I'd have a decent deposit. I work close to full time hours, and primary carer for our 6 year old. My ex earns more than me. We're still both living in the house together.

I was keen to buy him out, but would have to give him around £70k, and don't think I'd get a big enough mortgage based on my wages to cover that.

I've looked at other properties that I think I could afford, and seems to be 2 bed flat is the only option. I'm in the South East, so property prices are ridiculous.

I've considered a Shared Ownership property, which would give my son a lot more space, plus a garden, and would be affordable for me.

I don't want to rent unless no other choice, as it's even more expensive than mortgage, and less stability.

I considered a mesher order to minimise disruption for our son, and I could afford the current mortgage repayments. I'd even be happy to forgo child maintenance payments to allow ex to use his full wage to get a decent place for himself. However, I think this option would cause conflict if his equity is tied up for a number of years, and I want us to have an amicable relationship going forward.

Any advice/suggestions?

OP posts:
WingingIt90909 · 22/02/2022 10:40

Just to add, I have had a preliminary chat with solicitor, and she was keen to push for mesher, but I'm not so sure about that option.

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millymolls · 22/02/2022 13:15

How much more than you does he earn?
Can he house himself without the equity being released?
Are there pensions to consider
Is 50:50 share fair?

Personally I’d only look at mesher as a last resort if there are no alternatives.

WingingIt90909 · 22/02/2022 16:13

He's recently been promoted, so I'm not quite sure how much extra he's getting, but prior to that he was getting just under double my wage, so I'd say he's double my wage now. I've been working extra hours, but they're temporary, so I'm likely to go down to 22 hrs a week, though I am looking for extra on a permanent basis. I think he would be able to house himself without the equity, if he rented.
We both have a pension pot, I think mine is slightly larger than his, but not by much

OP posts:
WingingIt90909 · 22/02/2022 16:14

He also gets paid extra for overtime hours. He brings home just under £2000 a month after tax

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Itsybitsydooda · 01/03/2022 23:44

Find out what mortgage you could get and then go from there. Would he accept some of the equity now and then the rest in x amount of years perhaps?
I've decided Im going to rent for while as I wasnt on the mortgage for our home so I have first time buyers benefit and who knows where I'll be in a years time, hopefully not still single

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