Hi there,
Me and my partner spilt up around October time with us both coming to a mutual agreement that I would have our little girl on a Sunday, Monday and Tuesday night, drop her off at nursery on a Wednesday morning for my ex to pick her up on Wednesday evening from nursery to then have her Wednesday night and Thursday night, I would then grab her from him on Friday morning have her Friday night to Saturday day, he would then have her from Saturday night through to Sunday day when I would get her back in the evening to have her Sunday night.
This was (I suppose) working fine. I did have some concerns when her nursery informed me about a change in my daughter attitude, they told me she was becoming very withdrawn. I spoke to my ex and said if things don’t change I do believe we should change child contact for her sake as she was being put here, there and everywhere. My ex downright refused to listen to anything I was saying regarding my child’s welfare and just accused me of trying to take my child away from him. I am currently and have been talking to a domestic abuse charity since I plucked up the courage to leave him. So, because of the way I know he acts and he will stamp his feet until he gets his own way, I just left it..it really wasn’t worth the hassle.
At the weekend I was informed that my ex partner had gone out and got drunk, he was verbally and physically (grabbed her arms) abusive to one of the nursery girls to which my child attends. I received a phone call on the Sunday morning from the nursery manager saying my child is no longer able to come to the nursery on my ex partners days because he is no longer allowed on the property (which she is in ever right, she is a private nursery).
Now, my child has been going to that nursery since she was 6 months old, she is doing amazingly there and have many friends there. My ex, instead of just saying sorry he is prepared to just send my child to another nursery. I do not agree that because of his actions, she should now be uprooted away from what she knows.
I have made the decision as her mother that while he is no longer able to take her to nursery she will be in my care from Monday through Friday afternoon where he can get her and have her till Sunday evening.
He has now turned threatening and saying I can’t do this. I have spoken to my DV charity and they said I am within my rights, however, I just want too get some advice on the matter? I am now proposing for us to go to mediation because we are not going to solve this ourselves but he is refusing because ultimately he doesn’t think he has done anything wrong. He is saying I am playing god with our child..no, I am just trying to protect her.
FYI, my daughter goes to nursery Monday-Thursday.
Any advice would be very much appreciated(: