My separation has become really messy. I move out next Tuesday and we had agreed for STBXDH to come to my new place and do DC bedtime a few times a week and for us all to stay at his one night a week. I have realised that this is a terrible idea. He is hostile and I don’t trust him (he can’t have children overnight alone because of his drinking). I need to tell him I want to alter our plans but he keeps putting the discussion off. He’s also now delaying the hair analysis we’d agreed. All informally agreed at present. We start mediation in a fortnight.
Would it be acceptable for me to just email him, or should I ask my solicitor to get involved? I hate that we’ve left it so late for this talk.