Ex virtually stalking me...

[Suziejtaylor]

Looking for advice … has anyone experienced anything similar? My ex is essentially stalking me, albeit virtually. He has form historically for accessing my social media accounts e.g., Facebook messenger, WhatsApp, due to me not having not properly logged out on the family laptop. More recently however it has got really bad.
I joined Tinder a few months ago and deliberately blocked his phone number as I didn’t put it past him to look for me on there, but then he got a new number which I obviously hadn’t blocked, created a profile, and found me on there. He copied my profile text and photos and sent me messages about it all with horrible comments.
He also still had access to the mobile phone bill for my phone and our kid’s phones and was obviously looking at the call/text log, and noticed I was texting a new number several times a day, every day (this was a guy from Tinder). My ex googled the number and managed to find this guy as he used to have a plumbing business and still had that phone number linked to a Facebook business page. My ex then had the gaul to message this guy, who understandably ran for the hills. My ex seems to have some sort of spyware in use as he knows exactly when I go on Tinder, he gets alerts (he has even sent me a screen shot of one!), and so just to avoid the abusive texts I will get from him I have stopped using it. Would I get anywhere if I reported this to Tinder?
Also bear in mind my ex and I separated 4 years ago, and for 3 of those years he has been living wth the woman he was messing around with which caused us to break up! He wants me back and always tells me this, but this woman is oblivious. He has a new life with her but is determined to stop me moving on.

Can you remove his access to your mobile phone number?

I'm wondering whether police involvement might be merited. It sounds like harassment.

That's awful and not fair on you at all. Can you just get either a new SIM and phone number or even a completely separate phone for Social media and Tinder? If he doesn't know your new number he won't be able to trace you. I have to use a separate phone for social media due to stbxh hacking into mine and reading all my messages, although I think he paid to have a professional job done on me as he also hired PD's to follow me at one point. Now he knows I'm totally serious about divorcing him plus he wants it over and done with too now, I don't think he's so interested. Anyway, I hope you can get your issue sorted out.

You need to report this to the police. Your ex is stalking you and get a restraining order if he is attempting to make contact with you. This is the only thing that men like him will understand...

You need a new number and a new phone.

Report it to the police. There's no other option; he's not going to stop of his own accord after all this time.

Sounds like you need to take extra steps to protect your personal data. Go through all your apps and change your passwords. Use a second email address rather than a telephone number to use apps if you can. Where you have to use telephone numbers on apps, block him and if he gets another number block him again.

Report him to the police too although I'm not sure what the law in this area is and how much they can do about it. They could probably caution him and scare him off at least though.

Phone the police. But sending you proof that he is accessing your accounts he has convicted himself.

New number and new phone will solve a lot of this very quickly if you can.

When I hadn't long left dh a friend's sil was emigrating and we(me and female friends) all a big night out Booked an entire restaurant out!
The next day exh sent me loads of pics of me at the table etc... I sat in the porch and cried.. I felt quite violated (not an exaggeration as he had assaulted me before).. I have no sm so he had sought out people I went with the get the pics... I had blinds fitted to my new home and shut them whenever he was due to drop off /collect the dc.. Fucking creep.

1 - Change your phone number and don’t give it to him or your children. Don’t ever call or texts their phones from your new number.

2 - Buy a cheap pay as you go phone for him to text you on when he has the children in case of emergency’s. Give the second phone number to your children too. Don’t ever accept phone calls on the second phone. It’s there for emergency texts only. I had to do this with my ex.

3 - change your passwords on absolutely everything especially PayPal, online banking, Amazon, social media. Change them to complex passwords he’ll never guess.

Get a new number I believe its free first time.

Log on and change all your passwords on all accounts (if he has email access change that first). I can't stress this enough turn on two point authentication on everything you can, this sends an alert to you that someone is trying to access your account.

I have it for ebay, Facebook, PayPal, Netflix as examples.