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Divorce/separation

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Separated 4 yrs ago.

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Ilovetheseventies · 25/01/2022 10:54

I left my DH 4 years ago and I am confused about how I feel.
Ive had counselling and it has not really helped.
Sometimes I feel fine and other times I just want things back to how things were.
My DH became cold towards me and emotionally he wasnt there.
When I visit the house to see the children he is there but I dont really see him that much.
He has a new partner which he has been with for two years. They seem happy which is a good thing.
I still love him but I dont know even if he was available or wanted to I would want him back.
The problem is when we split up there was not one conversation about the marriage, unless i instigated it he wouldnt talk about how he felt emotionally.
I think today is just a bad day. I want to move on and not think about it.
Sometimes I wonder what he thinks about me ? Ive no idea.
His parents do not talk to me or have anything to do with me because I instigated the split.
I just want to resolve this and move on. I hate to think I spent 18 years with someone who didnt really care about me.

OP posts:
user1468673063 · 05/02/2022 17:49

Same boat here but 2 years separated after 30 years with my child heart sweetheart. I instigated after I found out he had an affair, but he said he was quite ok to carry on being married to me. He’s now moved on with his life and coasting to retirement whilst I’ve picked up my shattered career and started again. Financially we’re going through it still, so in this awful dependent limbo. I’m only expecting 50/50 But feel so disadvantaged and am back where I was financially years ago. I’m so fortunate in many ways - kids are happy and I know I will be ok but feel like my entire adult life was spent with someone who didn’t really want to be there. I can’t stand him now. Tomorrow’s another day!

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