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Father refuses to accept our sons name.

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Chiloquin · 24/01/2022 02:44

My sons father insists on calling him by a different name.
He refers to him by that name when telling people he has a son and when he sends child Maintenence. Any correspondence to me also comes with this name. He even forced me to do a dna test because I wouldn't let him choose the name and when I went to the test center he put down our sons details under a completely different name (first and last name)
By the way he is an absent father and is absent because there's a non molestation order in place. He hasn't made any attempts to go through a contact centre or filled out child arrangement forms.
He wasn't around during pregnancy due to pushing me whilst I was pregnant.
He was there for the birth. I chose the names during pregnancy and was willing to let him choose a middle name and we double barrel the surname and he didn't want that but now he won't call him by his real name.
The name is also a Muslim name. None of us are Muslim. I'm Christian and he's agnostic.
How would you feel about this?

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Rtmhwales · 24/01/2022 02:47

How old is your DS? When is the last time his father saw him?

My DS's father doesn't see him. Don't think I'd care if he called him something else to his family and friends. They'd just think he's weird.

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 24/01/2022 03:29

I'd ignore it. He's not going to change, as long as he's paying maintenance and staying away from you both I wouldn't rock the boat.

CheeseMmmm · 24/01/2022 03:43

He's being a twat to get at you.

How old is child?
That's who will be most impacted.

ShippingNews · 24/01/2022 04:25

If he never sees the child it won't matter. I'd ignore it.

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