I would like to begin by saying I totally agree there is a need for an organisation like the csa as there are many parents who are not willing to support their children, and those who would try any loophole or method to avoid paying towards their offspring. I am not one of these. I always thought doing the right thing and working hard to make my children's life better than mine would be the right thing to do, alas I've found out I was living in a fantasy world where my thoughts of doing right would be supported and there was a fair system for all. My predicament began when my relationship ended, myself, partner, and 2 children had a small house together and when we decided things were not working I moved out. I owned half of the equity of the house but mortgage was in my partner's name. I wanted the best for my kids so said I would rather not divide the house and at that time had a good job so paid way over what the guidelines were so my kids wanted for nothing. I had my kids from Friday to Sunday every week and never missed a payment. my ex met a new guy and I was happy for her as I too had moved on with my life if this is when greed took over my partner started asking for more and more money at first gullible as I am I helped as much as possible I've been discovered my partner had sold the property and she moved from Essex to Cambria some 350 miles from me and stopped letting me see the children. she then contacted the csa thinking she could get more money. this backfired and her money was significantly less. due to stress and other factors I lost my job and the csa still wanted a large monthly payment while my benefits were being arranged which I couldn't afford. now ive been offered a new position with excellent salary due to the csa demanding 40% gross income to pay my back dated costs and monthly payments that with 40% tax for high income plus around 15% n.i. even though no my projected salary would be around £400 a day the 95% deduction would mean I would earn £20 per day once I had removed my costs to get to work of £18 and I would be left with 2 pound per day to cover my gas electric food shop council tax and other bills how can anybody afford that I was told that after I had paid my backdated CSA fines I would only have to pay the usual rate 30% this would mean I would need to live for around 6 months on negative income it's making doing the right thing an impossibility. I feel this is especially unfair as my ex has stopped my access by relocating has sold our home and taken my asset knowing I cant afford to fight it in the courts and wouldn't if I could as it would affect the children. ive sought help from stepchange, Peabody, cap and other charities and institutions and as I'm a: a man and b: a property owner I cannot get help. If there is any advice please help