Separation

[legogal1]

Hi first time post so if I'm doing this wrong be kind, just looking for advice I am a mum to 2 teen boys 18& 15, my husband left us on the morning of New Years Eve, saying that he had enough of younger sons terrible behavior ( cheeky leaving doors unlocked when he goes out, not listening ect ) can't sleep in room on his own - autism that's another thread probably on its own , said to younger son on his way out he is dead to him - never wants to speak to him or see him again but is meeting older son , none of his family have been in touch only my sister has been kind with them. So I am looking for advice fr anyone who has been in a similar situation as how to speak to them about things the right way thank you

So sorry you are going through this. What exactly are you looking for? How to talk to your sons?

Hi just anything it's just I feel so bad for them and I guess we just take one day at a time and work things out

That's abuse of your younger son by him right there. How dare he say that to him. How damaging. Fight for your rights and your son's welfare. Document it. Tell your son how much you love him. I don't think his behaviour can be explained by you to your son. Your son needs protecting from this man who just effectively abandoned him and laid the blame on his young shoulders. Not good. Sorry to be blunt, but I was quite shocked reading this and really feel for your son. Stay strong. X

Thanks that's what I think as well , I feel that this is damaging. for him and I'd something that will impact on his life a parent is meant to be there to support a child and needless to say none of his side of his family have even phoned them to see how they are not even their gran ( never mind me ) only my sister & colleague

You are right. You are in the position of being the parent that is there for your children now. Sod the family who are not stepping up to care. You sound like you know what is right and wrong for your children, not them.x

Thank you , it's funny how you see people in a new light at times like this and I think you are right in what you say thanks support helps

Will your older son want anything to do with him after his he has/is treating his brother.?
I’m appalled by your husbands behaviour tbh
I’m not excusing it in any way but was it said in the heat of the moment kind of way, or during an argument which got out of hand? ( where we have probably said things we don’t mean and regret?)

Ultimately all you can do is provide support to your children,make your son know he us loved unconditionally by you, look after yourselves and make sure you leave the marriage financially with what is rightfully yours.