How do you navigate meals , family movies, etc, with kids?

[TherapyClient]

Ex H is divorcing but we still live together.

Two children hopefully will I've with me predominately, but H still wants business as usual, for sample, weekly pizza and movie night and all daily meals round the kitchen table together.

I'm not sure if that's okay when separating as it gives the kids stability, or whether it confuses them and gives false hopes (they want us to be together) so isn't recommended.

Whilst you live together yes I would say it’s much more civilised to do meals etc. But once your apart I think you all need a period to adjust personally. I would state if your separating then once separated it obviously can’t be business as usual surely isn’t that why your divorcing?

No that’s ridiculous! Unless he wants to take on the responsibility for healthy meal planning/grocery shopping/cooking/washing up every night - in which case I’d be seriously tempted to take him up on the offer!

Is he expecting you to cater family meals?

Or is it a case of you’re invited to a meal he’s catering and can say yes or no?

I’d think that at least initially it would be much less confusing if there was a clear division e.g. Mum’s nights Mon/Weds/Fri, Dad’s nights Tues/Thurs/Sat, Sunday alternates.

If it’s your night and you want a movie and to invite him then do. But the invitation- from both of you - is key,

No presumptions. Try to live as separately as possible.