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Leaving marriage and moving out. What do I need to do when

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Scaffoldtothesky · 27/12/2021 01:13

Long back story and I have a number of threads.

In short, I'm about to leave my marriage and move out with DS3. DH has been non responsive, giving me the silent treatment for years now but since I've "given up" trying to make things better, it's become apparent that's what he's been doing all this time, and is now clearly giving me the silent treatment and being passive aggressive.

I'm very fortunate that I've bought a place (savings my own account and previously owned property pre marriage). H knows all of this and at one point I wanted him to move with us but he wasn't interested and hasn't mentioned or asked anything since.

I haven't seen a solicitor, maybe stupidly so. I wanted to work things out with him mutually but despite marriage counseling and offers several times a week to talk, he's still ignoring me and generally acting like nothing is happening.

I don't even have a plan though, I was just going to move out with DS and he agreed to this. But he hasn't taken up the offer of agreeing a childcare plan.

But what do I actually need to do to "cover" myself? All finances are separate, I earn a good wage in a secure job, I've gathered my documents (passports, ID, DS birth certificate).

Thanks sorry for the long post.

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PicaK · 27/12/2021 02:07

Well, read up - a couple of the latest books on amazon and a good read of the gov website and wikivorce.
Then chat to a solicitor. Foot straight talking sensible advice I recommend www.wilkes.co.uk/people/sian-kenkre/
Some/all of your premarriage assets may be considered family assets and be split with him.
You need to book some form of mediation to discuss how you will split the care of your daughter. If not 50/50, why not? etc.
Bear in mind a full scale court battle will cost c£40k in total. The bestest most amenable divorce will be more like £2-5k.

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