I have insisted on a trial separation after years of DH's temper and manipulation. After making a big fuss he reluctantly agreed and moved out last week.
Except he's already saying to the DC "I'm hoping I'll be back very soon" as if he thinks he's just being sent away for a while as some sort of punishment, and any discussions about money result in "no need to change anything for now".
I don't know if he genuinely doesn't get that this is a trial to see if we might separate, or whether he's just pretending he doesn't get it? I don't know what I'm going to want a few months down the line...that's the whole point, but you'd think he'd realise that even asking for a trial means it could be made permanent...
It's doing my head in him pretending that things are mostly ok, I don't want to be cruel and spell it out to him, or maybe I should - for background he gets very abusive when he's angry so I'm not wanting to make things difficult any sooner than necessary.