Was going to wait for no-fault in April….

[GoodnightGrandma]

….but I can’t, had enough. He’s spending lots of money on stuff, there’s no conversation about it. I really can’t do another 4+ months.
So I need 5 unreasonable behaviours, according to my solicitor.
Drinking every day is one.
Is taking money from our joint savings to pay his CC without discussion one ?
We haven’t had sex for over 12 months ?
Sleep in separate bedrooms ?
Do nothing socially together ?

Yep all of them are fine. Then write how it impacted you. For example, refuses to socialise together leaving me feeling.....isolated/lonely....
Good luck.

I think you also need to give a point in time when it happened.
Do you need to sort out your finances? If there is any need for or likelihood of amicability I would choose the least inflammatory. I’d personally avoid the daily drinking. But lack of intimacy, leading separate social lives, separate rooms all good.

He doesn’t refuse to socialise with me, we just don’t anymore. I’ve no desire to go anywhere with him.
I don’t want him to touch me. I’ve got burning resentment from years of the same thing.
I really resent the fact that I can’t just divorce him, it’s like I’ve got no right over my own body. Why do I need any reasons, just not wanting to be tied to him anymore should be enough 😡😡😡

And I will be using the daily drinking, he’s an alcoholic.
I’m legally shackled to a man that is addicted to alcohol and antidepressants, and spends money without a single thought.
I’m the one feeling bad yet he’s done nothing to rectify this over many, many years.
I just want to be free.
Rant over.

Your messages are reading like you still live with him? You can live very separate lives without being divorced?

I do live with him. We share a house.
I asked him to move out but he’s still here. He has every right to live here.

all look like valid reasons to me, but as a PP suggested I'd also record how it makes you feel, lonely, isolated, unloved, unwanted, unapreciated, resentful, disrespected, belittled.
I d feel for you having to live with someone when you deperatly don't want to. Good luck with it.

I'm sorry I ask this genuinely - how will the divorce help if he refuses to move out? Can you afford to move out?

I will buy him out, so he’ll have to move out.

All valid reasons and I think by the time the process actually starts properly, it may be at least a couple of months down the line. Hope you have a good solicitor.

@GoodnightGrandma oh how hard for you. So much pressure, good that you can buy him out. Speaking of which, when it's spoken of does it mean you have to pay exH what he would have got had you sold the property? How does it actually work ? Sending hugs, we will all get there, at some point

The house gets valued, I need to pay him half. You can do that by taking less private pension if he agrees, or d=getting a mortgage.