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Question Concerning Equity in Shared Property

10 replies

BT04444 · 29/11/2021 12:42

Hi,

I’m after some thoughts around my current situation. To cut a long story short, my wife and I separated last year, amicably, whilst living abroad. We returned to the UK this year and my wife was originally given accommodation through her work (not entirely suitable as it was a one-bedroom apartment and we have two children), but has now moved back into the house that we jointly own.

We originally put our property on the market but she then refused to sell, despite at least 1 very good offer, which I only found out about via the estate agents later on. I am currently living with my parents, but will be looking to move out once everything is sorted.

We currently share 50/50 day to day care of the children and my wife cannot afford to get a mortgage for our property on her own (we have always earnt the same) and therefore cannot take me off the current mortgage. Because of this, when I do move out I will need to rent and I have asked that whilst I am doing this I would still get equity in the house moving forwards. My argument is that I will be renting somewhere not as nice as our house, which my children will spend 50% of their time in, whilst she will be paying the mortgage and getting equity from it.

I feel as though the best solution would have been for us to sell the property and both move on, but now the children are back in the property (they moved in this weekend after being out for over 18 months), I don’t want it to have a negative effect on them and she is also saying that she will apply for a Mesher Order.

I’ve spoken to solicitors who have advised that it is unlikely that would happen, but that it would also cost us more than the equity to go to court. She is refusing to do mediation unless I pay for it.

My main question really is around the equity. If I am renting somewhere for the same amount that she is paying monthly for the mortgage, should I therefore be entitled to continued equity in our house?

Thanks

OP posts:
IknowwhatIneed · 29/11/2021 17:41

If you own it jointly I’d think you both split any accrued equity upon the sale but I’m not a lawyer.

millymolls · 29/11/2021 17:56

You’re correct
Maybe not 50% but whatever split is agreed and awarded

millymolls · 29/11/2021 17:56

And that is how mesher works -

comfortablyfrumpy · 30/11/2021 12:52

As above, that's how a Mesher works. The Order would state the % split of equity on eventual sale.

That said, Courts are nowadays, as I undersrtand it, only granting Meshers where there is not a long wait for them to be triggered.

How old are your children?

HeddaGarbled · 30/11/2021 12:55

My advice is to pay for the mediation.

BT04444 · 30/11/2021 13:38

Thanks all for the responses so far.

Our children are 5 and 8.

I have had a MIAM session and am ok to pay for it, but my wife is refusing to do it unless I pay for her too. I'm just trying to work out where I stand on the everything really, including from a moral point of view.

OP posts:
TheresACrackInEverything · 02/12/2021 09:03

I would just send her a link to something that explains that you need to go to the MAIM to get the ball rolling. She can't get an order about anything unless she engages.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 11/12/2021 21:57

From a moral point of view... are you paying her any maintenance? You say you're living at your parents house at the moment? Are you contributing towards the mortgage now?

strengthinnumber · 11/12/2021 22:01

@JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn

From a moral point of view... are you paying her any maintenance? You say you're living at your parents house at the moment? Are you contributing towards the mortgage now?
They earn the same and have the children 50/50. Would maintenance still need to be paid?
JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 11/12/2021 22:05

I was just asking as OP mentioned morals. If he's currently living with parents and not paying any maintenance maybe that's why his wife can't afford mediation?

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