Do I go back

[3peemc]

Hi all . My hub had an affair an left to be with her 5 years ago we didn't have children after an anencephaly pregnancy. I asked him a number of times was he sure this was what he wanted and I got the dreaded I love you but am not in love with you. So we separated sold our house and went in different directions. I reached out recently to clear the air and let him know there was no bad feeling as we had never spoken since the separation 5 years ago and since then he has been in constant contact saying he made a mistake . As he is still with the woman he left me for I've said I won't do to her what they did to me and can't keep in contact , he said he will sort himself out and come back . I'm really confused . I've always missed him ... is it just that I miss the idea of him or what

5 years!? He's taking the piss. And he's having a bad patch with the other woman and you unintentionally offered him a quick "out".

Has he had kids with the ow?

No. Why would you possibly want to be with a man like that?
There will be no respect, no trust.

Nope. Nope. Nope. He's just using you.

So he wasn’t in contact with you until you contacted him ?
He’s playing you, stay away and stop contacting him.

What? Why would you consider this?

He left you. He decided she was better than you and left. He didn't even have tbe decency to tell you first.

And now you are the potential OW?

He hasn't changed has he, still lining up any woman he thinks will have him when he is bored of the current one.

What do you think he will be up to on t years when he is bored again?

saying he made a mistake

But he didn't contact you for 5 years and is only now speaking to you as you contacted him. I'd block and delete. He said he didn't love you then, hasn't spoken to you for 5 years- why the sudden change of heart?

You can bet your life that this woman doesn't realise what's going on.You contacted him at a time when he was feeling weak (that's probably quite often actually) and he has jumped at the thought of just moving in with you. If things had been different, if he hadn't had an affair, if he had contacted you and said he'd always missed you and he had made a huge mistake, if he said he'd been to counselling and so on, then our answers would be very different.

Are you insane?

I can't quite get my head round why you'd contact a wanker like that after 5 years to say No hard feelings, eh? but to actually contemplate for a moment rekindling anything with the tosser...

Raise your bar a hell of a lot higher, OP.

He just wants to see if he can have sex with you again. Future faking he's an ex for a reason

He will persuade YOU to be the ow.
Raise your bar op.