Wondering how others who instigated the split cope with the guilt? Been together 8 years during which OH went through a lot, and put me through a lot. My personality means I fixed everything, organised everything and facilitated his life. He's doing so well now which is great, but the past few years of calm highlighted to me that I'm not fulfilled by the relationship - whilst he has been happy, I've been lonely. On reflection I blame myself for letting our relationship get to this stage (we have 2 young dcs) and although I tried to break up with him a few times previously, I always allowed myself to be talked back into the comfort of being in a relationship rather than facing the reality. Ex is obviously very hurt and angry,can't believe I had children with him when I had doubts, lists the issues he'll now have to face (will have to kick out tenant in his flat but can't afford to pay mortgage alone, can't live near his family because of his work, won't get to see his kids everyday etc.) Typically I would start working through solutions for him, but have to leave him to do that himself now, although he's not emotionally able to just yet. Essentially I have sacrificed his happiness for my own, and although I feel it is necessary, I feel awful. We should have broken up before kids but there's nothing I can do about that. How have others faced these feelings? Any words of wisdom?