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NRP access if child has covid

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SallyAnn32 · 09/11/2021 09:22

Hi,

My DD has tested positive for covid and I just wanted any experiences of what any of you did with regards to NRP having access during her isolation. The government guidelines for isolation don't include seeing a NRP. I know in lockdown moving between parents was allowed but I'm not sure about now.

Dad won't be taking her anywhere but in terms of work for me it's tricky!

Thanks x

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MyDcAreMarvel · 09/11/2021 09:26

Obviously your child stays with you while they isolate. You don’t risk another person ie her dad also getting covid.

Sirzy · 09/11/2021 09:27

If you have to work then would him coming to your home to look after her be possible?

Ideally she shouldn’t be moving and nor should anyone else be coming in but that isn’t always going to work.

Universeandeverything · 09/11/2021 09:29

The child stays where they are. I had the same recently when dc had Covid and they didn’t see exh for two weeks.

Theunamedcat · 09/11/2021 09:30

Child needs to stay put

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SallyAnn32 · 09/11/2021 13:24

Forgot to mention Dad had covid recently and is double vaccinated so he is ok. Im on unpaid leave so Im stressing about that side of things as well. I know it can't be helped but still stressful.

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SallyAnn32 · 09/11/2021 13:27

@Sirzy

If you have to work then would him coming to your home to look after her be possible?

Ideally she shouldn’t be moving and nor should anyone else be coming in but that isn’t always going to work.

This could be an option however eldest DD refuses to see exh after he left the family a couple of years ago and she has crippling anxiety as a result. Shes also positive but the idea was if youngest DD went to dad I could work at home. Eldest is 10 so able to just watch tv and lets me get on with it whereas youngest is 6 and needs more attention.

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SallyAnn32 · 09/11/2021 13:27

@Universeandeverything

The child stays where they are. I had the same recently when dc had Covid and they didn’t see exh for two weeks.

Thank you for replying. It's hard isn't it. It's only 10 days but 10 days is so long when you're a solo parent

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Eightandahalfyears · 09/11/2021 13:29

I would be in the same position as you and we have already decided the children would carry on as usual to facilitate both of our jobs.

TurnUpTurnip · 09/11/2021 13:29

God when someone tested positive for Covid in my kids class their dad refused to even see them even though none of them had any symptoms 🤦🏻

Snookie00 · 09/11/2021 13:32

If he’s already had covid recently then I would send the younger one to his assuming he can keep her isolated and you don’t need to use public transport to get her there.

Itsnotdeep · 09/11/2021 13:51

She needs to stay with you unfortunately. I do get it - I'm a lone parent too. 3 of mine got covid over the summer (not at the same time!) and each time they were with me! I just thought my ex could have done one isolation with them!

Katieandthekids · 09/11/2021 14:53

Do what works for you and your family. Who cares about the rules. If she's literally going from home to home in a car it's no ones business but the parents

blackcurrantjam · 09/11/2021 15:08

Personally I'd look after my child irrespective of the illness whether I was nrp or not. The idea that a child cannot see their other parent because they have covid is imo nonsensical and deeply sad.

MyDcAreMarvel · 09/11/2021 16:51

Personally I'd look after my child irrespective of the illness whether I was nrp or not. The idea that a child cannot see their other parent because they have covid is imo nonsensical and deeply sad.
You are missing the point, it’s to stop the spread of covid from one household to another, and then to two households contacts rather than just one.

Theunamedcat · 09/11/2021 19:34

Can you afford to be on unpaid leave?

NeedsCharging · 09/11/2021 19:41

I had this recently.
Dc still went to their dad's and he carried on her isolation and then he did a LFT every day for 10 days for himself.
Is that an option.

SophieHatterPendragon · 09/11/2021 19:43

Ex and I agreed if child had covid he would stay with parent who he was with when isolation started.

Mediocrates · 09/11/2021 19:44

@NeedsCharging

I had this recently. Dc still went to their dad's and he carried on her isolation and then he did a LFT every day for 10 days for himself. Is that an option.

We did this too.

If the other parent isolates as soon as they have contact with the child, then they're not risking anyone else. Not only was it in my DC's best interests to see their other parent, but it also meant I was able to share the load.

Mediocrates · 09/11/2021 19:45

Also to add that we drove the short distance and no one was put at risk through contact

blackcurrantjam · 11/11/2021 17:54

@MyDcAreMarvel I'm not missing the point. I'm saying that I would stretch the contacts across two households and isolate or whatever was required so that children don't have to be isolated from parents

SnowWhitesSM · 11/11/2021 17:59

I think because he has recently had covid - depending on who he lives with and if they also tested positive, then it would be ok for her to go there. Although there is the risk of a car accident or breakdown on the way which wouldn't be great for recovery people!

But if my ex gave one of your dc such bad anxiety from emotional harm then I'm not sure he should be seeing either of them! Or that really needs to be worked through as him coming to yours is the best solution here.

MyDcAreMarvel · 11/11/2021 18:41

@blackcurrantjam I'm saying that I would stretch the contacts across two households and isolate or whatever was required so that children don't have to be isolated from parents
Oh right you are not confused then. You would choose risking peoples lives just so a child doesn’t miss a few days with a parent.

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