Hello.
I have been married 15 years to an abusive control freak. I've slept in the spare room for past year. We're in our fifties. No children involved. He owns a 3 bed house which his mum lives in alone. We bought this house jointly. I sold my previous house for my share of deposit and he remorgaged his mother's house for his half of deposit.
He has paid the mortgage throughout the marriage. I have paid for everything else including cars, council tax, everything.
I have nowhere to move to. I have no friends. My elderly parents are in a care home and my brother lives in a one bed flat. His mother lives in the next town with 2 spare bedrooms.
Does anybody know where I stand? Can I get him to move in with his mother? He won't go willingly. Will I be able to sell the marital home? Should I put it up for sale first or should I apply for a divorce first?
I would be happy to continue with mortgage payments myself. I can afford those once he is out as he is very very high maintenance. Once he is out of my life, my expenses will go down considerably as he spends money like its going out of fashion.
Thank you for reading and for any advice.