My decree absolute came through today.

[WhyAmIDoingIt]

Feels strange to see it.

Filed last august and it's taken a while with various set backs along the way but that's it, I'm officially divorced. I actually started a new job yesterday and had to select married as there was no option for separated so I'll have to log back in and change it on there to divorced.

I don't feel thrilled or devastated - it's a weird feeling. Can anyone else sympathise?

Yes. I felt like it was a bit of an anti climax. Once it sank in it felt great

Yes. Definitely.

The divorce took so long and was so tricky , that 18 months later I just kind of shrugged when it arrived. It was underwhelming.

Yup I always said I was going to celebrate but when it came through I just downloaded a copy (I did it all digitally) and that was it I left it at that I should probably find it and print it off really but I CBA my ex husband thinks we are still married because "no one has informed him" apparently the only thing that gave me pleasure was telling him no the police won't be calling me about his latest arrest as I'm not his wife anymore! (Are you sure? YES IM SURE)

My divorce was quite quick and in the scheme of things fairly amicable. By the time the absolute came I'd been living on my own a year and was over it so I can sympathise a bit. I was more excited when I moved into my own house post-divorce. I remember the feeling of liberation.

When the nici came through on valentines day i sobbed down the phone to my new boyfriend. Who was in the process of divorcing himself so very sympathetic. I felt such a failure and so so so very sad. By the time the absolute came through i didn't feel much at all. Relief mainly.

That was my reaction and i left and i knew it was right. So if it wasn't your choice it must be devastating.

I felt weirdly unbothered when it came through. It was a month or so later when watching a musical at a theatre that it hit me. I sat and cried in the dark. I instigated the divorce but I felt an overwhelming sadness for the people we had been and the people we ended up becoming. I never entered marriage with any thought of divorce. That sadness passed but I can still remember how it came out of nowhere. Thinking of you OP and wishing you happiness.

I felt the same. I had moved into my new house that day and it came in early. I cried hard when my old house sale completed but I felt nothing when the absolute arrived. I checked the details to make sure it was right and just carried on with my day! I was expecting to feel something but I think I was so content with the decision the bit of paper had no meaning emotionally to me.

I was happy when the decree nisi arrived back in January and then felt like I lost 10 years of my life over the remortgage/buying exh out and was so relieved when that went through.

I think I felt like I would never get to this point as it's dragged on so long and didn't realise it would happen today. Agree it feels like an anti-climax whoever else said that.

Part of me wants to have an early night with a hot bath and get tucked up in bed, the other part of me wants a wild night out with shed loads of alcohol.

Take alcohol to bed? Seems like the best of both to antisocial me 🤣