I got my decree absolute 2.5 months ago. My ex wife is living in the family home with a person who she cheated on me with for the last 3 years. The house is in my sole name, and every penny of the equity was contributed by me. My ex wife has never worked since she met me. I have moved out of the family home because my ex wife called the police on me and falsely accused me of coercive and controlling behaviour, in order to get me out of the house and move her boyfriend in. She called the police on me 3 weeks after I discovered her adultery, and moved her boyfriend in almost immediately after. She must be the only person in the world who is in a coercive and controlling relationship and manages to keep up an extramarital affair for 2 years without her husband finding out!
She has not replied to 2 solicitor's letters asking for financial disclosure. I am desperate to sell the house and split the equity.
What can I do? I asked the solicitor and they said the only option is court.
How long will this take? I can't handle another year of this divorce dragging on! I am desperate to earn some money and recover financially from this disaster of a marriage. 10 years with a wife who never worked, and cheated constantly.
I am now 36 and will be poorer than I was when I was 26, after 10 years of working like a slave, the last 3 years of it financing my ex wife and her new boyfriend, while my wife never worked at all!
Why does the law not take conduct into account? My ex wife has behaved atrociously throughout the marriage and divorce, from adultery, to spending all the money on one or more affairs, to refusing to work, and calling the police on me, and now refusing to provide financial disclosure. Is there any chance that a court would take any of this bad behaviour into account at all, or do I still have to give her half my assets?
I feel that my entire life has been ruined by the actions of one person. But now I am officially divorced, how can she continue to ruin my life further? Clearly she is incentivised not to reply to the solicitor, because the longer she makes it drag on, the more money she can suck out of me.
The law seems to be stuck in the 1950s ideal of a breadwinner and a stay at home wife. But if you are a hard worker married to a non-contributing and lazy person, there seems to be no way whatsoever to escape and be free. I am already more than 1 year into this process and still getting nowhere because she obstructs everything, because she can continue to take advantage of me.
Can't we petition parliament for a reform of the law? How can somebody be allowed to shamelessly sponge off another human being? Why is bad conduct not taken into account? Nearly 1 year after discovering the adultery and trying to divorce her as fast as possible, I am still funding her AND THE PERSON SHE CHEATED ON ME WITH!!!!! And I have no way to escape!