Forced to leave my marital home

[Evans18]

I’ve been in a rented home since last December (10months)
Prior to this I had to live with my mum for 7 weeks as my Husband made me leave my home and refused me entry back.

I was struggling back then but now my head is much clearer.

We had agreed to try and make another go but on my part that’s not happening and I am pretty sure he’s just stringing this along for as long as possible so he could get all financial gain.
He’s the one with all the assests and I’ve been looking after our children for the past 6 years (3 under 6 years old)

I am really worried about approaching the subject or Divorce with him as he keeps saying he wants to stay married but slips up abs sometimes says I’m his ex!!

So I can’t no longer continue being treated this way.

I want to split

I think my situation is unique in that I’m in a rented home and didn’t force my Husband out of our home.

I have some past trauma that wouldnt of allowed me to move back mentally.

In need to seek as much free advice and knowledge as I can as I have 0 funds at all.

I am on the house deeds

I am jointly on the mortgage.

I have one question which is (would it be possible for him to give me a percentage out of the house and him just stay living there ? )

Or would we need to sell and split
As our home is worth around £180000 and we have £40000 owing on the mortgage. ?

Thank You

He doesn't want to get divorced as then he would have to come to a financial settlement with you!
You need professional advice.
Assume that your husband is going to try and shaft you, anything other than that will then be a pleasant surprise

Yes he could try to extend the mortgage to buy you out of your share. But first of all you need to agree what that share is and then he would need to be able to borrow the money.

What arrangements do you currently have for shared parenting? Do you work or plan to work?

Go to a solicitor asap and ask for advice regarding a divorce. What a pig he is to have you and the children living elsewhere while he remains in the family home.

How on earth did he manage to force you out of your own home?! You’re on the deeds and the mortgage! What sort of father would do that to his children?!

Either way, you need to get divorced. I’d be v careful about what he’s up to though - he sounds like a very slippery snake.

You need a solicitor.

OP, you need a solicitor asap.

As you left the house, your husband's solicitor could argue that you have demonstrated that you can be adequately housed without any support from him. He should have left. Or you should have refused to go. My ex and I had to share a house for a long while during our divorce, for precisely this reason (then had to sell the house and split the equity).

Your husband is not the 'one with all the assets': you have young children and are married, so those assets are equally yours in law.

However... you are going to have to try to put your past trauma behind you and adopt a carapace of hardness, because your children's financial security depends on you being completely realistic and doing whatever it takes to ensure that your husband doesn't wriggle out of his financial responsibilities.

Are the children still in the home with the kids?

I have one question which is (would it be possible for him to give me a percentage out of the house and him just stay living there ? )

Or would we need to sell and split
As our home is worth around £180000 and we have £40000 owing on the mortgage

Yes, he can give you a percentage of the house (if he has the money of course). If he doesn't have the money you will have to either sell it and split the funds between you or you could allow him to continue living there, those are your only options really.

Does he have enough money to buy you out?

You should be the one in the house not him. I agree you need legal advice. If he can buy you out he would need to pay you at least £70K. That is value of the house less mortgage outstanding. Divided by 2. Your H is not the one with the assets. They are joint. He is absolutely screwing you over.

You won't be able to achieve anything without a solicitor. Retain one asap.