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Relationship ended (6 months before wedding)

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Fijiwater · 29/10/2021 20:25

I posted another thread recently but tonight the relationship has officially ended. I brought it up, following a discussion Sunday/Monday. He said lockdown was hard but he assumed once we got the house (more space), the dog and got engaged that things would improve. I said those things are nice but to improve things then conversations need to be had, and asked why he hadn't voiced concerns sooner. He said he didn't know.

Typically he will keep the lovely house (will buy me out) and the lovely dog (I'm in pieces over losing the dog :( ) I'll keep the cats. I'm gutted, I thought I was safe, secure and building a lovely home together. I knew there were problems but not what I would have considered deal breakers. I think I feel quite numb right now.

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Weenurse · 31/10/2021 07:26

So sorry 💐

LizziesTwin · 31/10/2021 07:28

That sounds hard. Do you have real life support to help you process this?

Fijiwater · 01/11/2021 07:24

Thanks both. Yeah it's not great at all but yes I have some very good real life support for financial, emotional and practical support! Just feel slow gloomy.

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LizziesTwin · 01/11/2021 15:25

I think that’s completely reasonable, it would be weird if you bouncing around happily after that news.

Wishing you well.

OldTinHat · 01/11/2021 15:39

I'm so sorry for you. But glad you have RL support. I've been in your shoes but now, many years later, its actually flipping okay! You'll find your way through this. You really will.

Fijiwater · 02/11/2021 09:27

Thank you both. Today I feel very angry at him. But I feel empowered and excited about my future. I have some flat viewings arranged for this week which I am looking forward to. I never wanted a huge house or loads of material things. I want a happy home and to feel loved and wanted.

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LizziesTwin · 02/11/2021 12:24

You can have both those things. Not sure what to put as I don’t want to be write the wrong thing. It’s hard adjusting to your life changing so well done going flat hunting & good luck.

Fijiwater · 14/11/2021 18:37

@LizziesTwin thank you :)

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Fijiwater · 14/11/2021 18:40

Been through a range of emotions since this first post. Have been very proactive, getting life etc sorted and consoled myself with the fact that our relationship would ultimately fail unless certain things were addressed etc, but that wasn't going to happen. However, it's now Sunday evening and I'm staying with a friend, feeling very low and tearful as I miss my home, pets and him.

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Fijiwater · 15/11/2021 13:36

Feeling slightly meh today. Got to go back to shared house after a weekend staying at my friends, but he won't be there fortunately. Swapped a few texts but it's all just a bit weird and I don't get what the point is in messaging. I'd understand if this was amicable or we had children, but that isn't the case.

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Maxiedog123 · 15/11/2021 13:49

I'm sorry about your dog

Fijiwater · 15/11/2021 14:02

@Maxiedog123

I'm sorry about your dog
Thank you. Have cried multiple times over this :(
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