Child access when one partner lives 2 hours+

[Mummsnett]

Potentially separating and trying to get ducks in a row. Partner works 2 hours away, and has a flat in that city which he would most likely live in. Our kids are 3 and 1, and are in preschool/childcare everyday in city where I live and work. If we separate I imagine we'll do EOW, with kids staying with me during the week in family home (which I own). Ex could potentially work from my home one day a week to do drop offs /pick ups and dinner/bath/bed. He'd probably stay over and sleep in double with 3yo which they do currently. I want him to have lots of contact with our kids as they've a great relationship, but equally it feels like I'm sacrificing a clean break for myself for his/their happiness. Of course the kids come first, but I'm wondering what other couples in similar circumstances do?

I wouldn't let him sleep over once you've separated- especially as he'll have his own place. Just let him pick them up and drop them off.

Meet him half both journeys and handover.
Although your youngest is still very young for whole weekends away.

I wouldn’t be doing this. You need to start the way you mean to go on.

Contact needs to be outside your home and he need to be responsible for arranging it,
If mid week visits aren’t possible without an overnight stay then he needs more holidays or an extra weekend now and again.