Sorry, I'm reposting this in another topic as I think I put it in the wrong topic before....
Hi everyone
Please help me make sense of this. I am tired of life, and completely at rock bottom.
I am in an abusive marriage and I can't leave because Im scared of loosing my child. I don't mean loosing custody of her, I mean I know I won't be able to cope with her being at her fathers house for nights.
He wants her 50/50 she isn't even two and he's been arrested in the past for being drunk in charge of her (I didn't know he was drinking) which came under neglect of a child under 7 , although he was not charged at court.
I am scared it will happen again if he has her overnight. He is mindlessly irresponsible, he drinks too much and I'm scared for my daughter. We will be living hours apart and how do I know when he drives to collect her he won't be over the legal limit to drive?
We are still married and even if he takes her out for the day and I send a text to ask how they are getting on I get told off by him and he says it "pisses him off" that I ask. So imagine what he'll be like if we divorce.
It's not that I don't want him to have contact with her, of course I do...but he needs to show me he's responsible and capable of keeping her safe.
He's already threatened me with 'top lawyers' and threatened that if I don't let him see her as much as he wants he'll cut the amount of child maintenance he'll give me (because he's self employed he says he'll dodge the system)
I feel completely stuck. I can't eat I can't sleep and I can't bare to think what the future holds.
Surely it's not okay for women to be scared to leave their marriage for the safety of their children?