"D" P and I are planning our separation from each other and the topic of holidays came up last night and how we are going to navigate these when we split.
It's what I fear the most. He's neglectful, irresponsible and doesn't see hazards.
He leaves medication out, plug sockets on, wires everywhere, can't tell when DCs are ill, once refused to call an ambulance when DC collapsed extremely unwell and required treatment (she would have died otherwise), leaves the 3 year old unattended playing outside whilst on our last holiday and we almost lost her, lets them run about on carparks, drinks too much on holiday and would never hear anyone entering the accommodation.
I had to be very blunt with him and say that he isn't safe to take our kids on holiday. He is arguing the toss and is "extremely offended."
He says he plans to take them on holiday often to his parents' static caravan. There isn't room for his parents to stay there at the same time. I think he's genuinely unsafe. I told him I would take this to court if needs be and he says I have no evidence to prove he's unsafe. Luckily, I have a few therapists that I've been to over the years who would probably support my version of events.
What do I do? I'm genuinely considering staying here, trapped with him to protect DCs.