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What did you do with your wedding rings?

54 replies

november90 · 25/09/2021 10:14

Husband and I separated in jan 2019 so can apply for a divorce soon (hurray!).
My wedding and engagement ring have been sat in my mums jewellery box ever since and are valued at about 2600 pounds together. I am so unsure what to do with them. A massive part of me would love a nice ring to wear on my middle finger, like eternity style with my sons names engraved inside but frankly I'll never be afford to buy anything for that amount. I wonder if I can sell them to a jewellers or have them made into an item. But then part of me feels bad and I don't know why. I have two sons and I dunno why but I worry they will be upset when they're older that I got rid. But I will never wear them again... surely they wouldn't want to give their future partners these rings.....
I'm rambling i know! I just wondered what you guys did with your jewellery items?
I don't know why I feel guilty around this. My ex walked out on me during pregnancy and put me through hell. I have no romantic feelings to him and no attachment to the rings at all! I've noticed ex wears his ring on his other hand now as it was bespoke and he really loved it. I would literally never want to wear these rings again! I suppose I am worried of upsetting anyone by moving on 🙈

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Longdistance · 25/09/2021 13:06

Keep them and pawn them in an emergency or if you need something you’d never usually buy yourself.
On a different note, I can’t understand why it takes two years to divorce. That’s far too long.

ILoveAnOwl · 25/09/2021 13:48

I lost my wedding ring years ago. Which is sort of prophetic. My engagement ring has been turned into stacking rings now.

larchbirch · 25/09/2021 14:28

Stopped wearing mine ages before we separated as it started to make my skin flake. When I left I noticed it wasn't in my jewellery box so I presume he'd taken it to sell. Even though I paid for it. Wouldn't have been worth much especially if it was flawed with nickel. The relief of leaving was priceless though

CosmicUnicorn · 25/09/2021 14:52

Threw them away.

sunshinesupermum · 25/09/2021 14:55

I gave my wedding ring to DD1 and engagement ring to DD2. Both happy. Bought myself a divorce ring!

BatshitCrazyWoman · 25/09/2021 15:36

My divorce took well over 2 years! I sold mine during the divorce, and the money went towards the considerable legal fees 😬

Original poster
november90 · 25/09/2021 15:56

I think I'm going to wait a while and maybe pawn them and get a ring ring or see if I can get them made into something nice. I hope over time I'll feel better towards ex so I won't find anything to do with our wedding so insulting (🙈) but I just think I should/could have something nice with nicer memories that I will actually wear 🥰

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Elaineowen1979 · 26/09/2021 13:45

Sold mine got £60 🤣

Iseeyoulookingatme · 26/09/2021 21:36

I sold my engagement ring and only got £200 for it, which was better than nothing. I've still got my wedding ring but only because it was a cheap ring and isn't worth anything. I rarely even wore my rings when I was married.

Mykittensmittens · 26/09/2021 21:41

If you’re selling for a pittance and just want rid, there is a charity called ‘gift of a wedding’ who arrange very last minute weddings for terminally ill people.

They take charitable donations of gold and melt them down into new rings for these weddings.

FuckmyHead · 26/09/2021 21:50

I kept mine for quite a few years after separation with the intention of giving to our daughters when they were older … once I put in for divorce and he changed into a complete Dick for a few years I felt differently about them and thought fuck it so I sold them, (the price of gold and what I was offered was good at the time), with the money I bought two other rings to give to my DD’s.

Anonmousse · 26/09/2021 22:03

I'm a jeweller. If your valuation is for insurance it will be the full retail value of replacing like with like.
If you sell them (particularly to a jeweller) they will likely put them on the scales and offer you scrap value and a small amount for any diamonds (unless they are very large or exceptional quality)
As a guide at the moment 18ct gold scraps for approx £28/g 9ct scraps for £14/g and platinum scraps for 16.60/g

An indie jeweller would be able to reuse or redesign if you wanted to keep the gold and diamonds and have made into something else. I've done this several times for inherited jewellery that is not a style that the person would wear.

stevalnamechanger · 26/09/2021 22:08

Lylies can melt them down for you amd remake

Lemons99 · 27/09/2021 20:15

Sold my wedding ring and went on holiday with my lover. Very satisfying, in many ways!

NotTheMrMenAgain · 29/09/2021 15:54

Kept my engagement ring as it's not a traditional type, it's in a Tudor style - wouldn't be worth much if I tried to sell it, I expect.

My wedding ring I chucked down the drain in the road - sent it to the sewers where all of the rest of the shit goes!

1mx1mChocolateBrownie · 29/09/2021 16:02

Wouldn't it be unpleasant / bad luck to pass on an engagement and wedding ring from a failed marriage onto another person?!

Unless there was a death it feels like a really bad omen!!

gladis665 · 29/09/2021 16:07

Engagement ring..in the random kitchen drawer 😂 (it's expensive too)
Wedding ring... landfill.

ExDH ring, landfill...he asked for it back a few months after I binned it🤯

yaychocolateginandwine · 29/09/2021 16:07

Went to a pawn shop in my lunch break and got £20 - then got a friend to put the money on a horse for me ( it didn't win ! )

Figgyboa · 29/09/2021 16:09

Pawned them! Took the money and bought myself a nice piece of Tiffany jewelry

rbe78 · 29/09/2021 16:10

You won't get anything like what they're valued at if you sell them.

If my parents had seperated (especially if it was when I was young, which sounds the case here), I wouldn't want their rings when I was older. They're not exactly fond mementos of their parents' loving marriage after all.

ElephantCup · 29/09/2021 16:12

My mum sold her wedding ring, she also wore my dads mother’s wedding ring, which she gave to me after the divorce. It’s far to big for me unfortunately so I don’t actually wear it

Queenie6655 · 29/09/2021 16:15

@violetfern

Sold mine to a pawn shop and went on holiday!
Got really good money for mine at a jewllers Couldn't believe it

Was previously offered 40 quid 😲😲

AliceMcK · 29/09/2021 16:18

Gave mine and any other jewellery he gave me to his dd when she was an adult. None of it was her style but when I asked her if she wanted it she said yes. We were close and have stayed in contact. She has always told me she would have loved for me to stayed her SM so liked the idea of having something from that time in her life.

Driftingblue · 29/09/2021 16:21

Mine is still sitting in a drawer nearly 20 years later. Selling it brings almost no value. We had no children. I’d like to reset the stones into other jewelry, but I worry it would irk DH to see me wear the results too often just because he hated my XH when we were all friends back in the day. There is no sentimentality involved for me, just some nice jewels that are being wasted in a drawer.

ciencien · 29/09/2021 17:05

Hi
I've had mine and some old earrings made into a new ring and I love it.
Worth contacting a jewellers

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