Legal Separation But Still Living Together?

[Bingopants]

Has anyone done this?

My marriage has been unhappy for years.

A couple of nights ago, things came to a head when OH banished me from the house and made me stay overnight in a very seedy hotel.

It was a terrifying experience. Our argument had been over one of our adult children who lives with us and who often treats me badly. OH never sticks up to me and his removal of me from the house was, in his words, "to diffuse the situation"

I really don't want to sell the house and I don't want to move out. We live very separate lives anyway and I'm happy to be "flatmates".

He has refused to leave.

Has anyone done this?

It’s very possible and surprisingly common but.. I’ve only heard of it working well when the partners are at least civil and prepared to keep things grown up. If he’s already been “banishing” you from the home I wouldn’t be very optimistic it could work here without being very awkward.

Thanks so much.

Try not to think so far ahead. What I wanted when me and my ex split is completely different to what I want now. I've accepted I've had to say bye to a lot of things I was looking forward to and the life I thought I was going to have and I'm at peace with most of it now (still a work in progress). As time moves on and you do too the idea of having your own place might become a really positive thing! But the best advice I was given was to give yourself small goals and don't expect to accept everything right now. Come up with something you and ex feel comfortable with for the short term whilst you work through such a tough time!
Hope you're ok ♥️

Is legally separating going to stop him doing that again? Is it going to stop your DC treating you badly or your H to not stick up for you?

Thanks @november90 and @RandomMess