My partner and I have been together for over 6 years. We broke up briefly about 2 years ago as my boyfriend told me his feelings had changed and the relationship had become toxic. We ended up getting together after 2 months and he told me he was confused and that he wanted things to work out so we tried again and things did get better. The relationship wasn't toxic anymore and things were going good although I had become quite cold. We discussed having a baby, he told me he was ready and I fell pregnant. We had our daughter in January 2020 and moved in with my parents to save money. Things weren't great as my boyfriend wanted his space and felt uncomfortable being around my family every day, so he started playing PS4 a lot and would spend hours playing every day whilst I was with my family. During this time sex became a once in a while thing and if we did do it was because I initiated it. He'd always have an excuse. He said he was sure he loved me but just didn't feel like having sex. I accepted this and decided to not make it a big deal as I thought I'd be making it worse and also didn't want it to feel forced. We moved out into our flat in Jan 2021 and my partner was furloughed. During this time he did initiate sex and I felt that he was more affectionate towards me. I got pregnant again in January and he went back to work in April. Sex became non existent again and to add to this the one time I initiated it he admitted he didn't like having sex with me whilst I was pregnant and didn't even like my baby bump rubbing against him during sex, he thought he would hurt the baby and just didn't want to do it and said he'd rather wait until baby's born. I am now 39 weeks pregnant and last week I went through his phone for the same time in ages as I felt something was wrong. I know it's bad but my hut was telling me he was hiding something and I was right. He has been chatting to different girls on social media, asking them to meet up and just flirting with them. I confronted him and he admitted to everything. He said he has not physically cheated and wouldn't have even if he met up with them (don't know whether to believe this). He also admitted he doesn't feel the same for me anymore and doesn't think things are gonna work out, how eventually one of us would explode and it's better to end things now so it doesn't affect our kids as much.
I am devastated. I just feel broken and disappointed as I genuinely thought we would be together forever. I suggested therapy and he agreed to it but he doesn't think it's gonna work.
He said he loves me and wants to be with me but the spark is just not there anymore, he's not sexually attracted to me and his feelings changed so he doesn't see how it could work out. He also said his mind is split in two; one side is positive and he's willing to try and work on things with me for the relationship to work but the other side is the 'realistic' side and he just wants both of us to be prepared for the worst.
His negativity makes me feel worse but I have read so many testimonials and stories on website of couples that have been through this and they've managed to fix things and are now happy in their relationships. In an ideal world therapy would work for us too and I'm trying to stay positive and do want it to work but his attitude makes me lose hope.
I don't know what to do now if we should continue going to therapy if I don't know whether he's gonna put effort in (he believes everything has to come naturally and going to therapy means forcing things, which I don't agree with) or if I should just give up and let him go.
Has anyone been through anything like this before or was anyone able to fix their relationship and keep their families together?