Divorce general info desperately appreciated

[Elizabethr54]

I've been tearing my hair out all day. I'm the one whose husband had the obsession with knives. He is now out of the house. I have z friend who used to be a family law solicitor but doesn't practice now. From that I made my list of all the unreasonable behaviour. I've been researching all day and not getting anywhere apart from waiting for a call from a solicitor tomorrow. Somebody else said that its not as easy to get divorced these days and that for domestic abuse you have to provide proof, easiest way is adult even if you haven't but considering I haven't why should I admit to that. They said otherwise its 3 yrs separation. That's worse than it use to be have we gone back to the dark ages. I want to move on. I have no money and I may end up having to sell the house. Any word of advice appreciated

Which country are you in? Adultery is difficult to divorce to divorce under unless other party admits or you have evidence ( eg child of affair)

Most people use unreasonable behaviour and just a couple if specific examples.

I am in the uk and my petition cleared without a problem with unreasonable behaviour . I listed swearing and shouting loudly in front of kids and breaking things which made me feel intimated and calling me belittling names . That was watered down so he has sign it !

proof of domestic abuse is only needed for legal aid funding, I think, otherwise written examples would count under unreasonable behaviour examples

Thanks guys that's put me st ease. My first lot of advise came from a friend who is not practicing at the moment due to other commitments but you've just said the same thing. I got confused when someone was telling me from their experience point of view so it got me worried. My grounds are unreasonable behaviour and I went through them with my friend who did family law. She said write down 12 and the solicitor will pick out 6. I wasn't going to start proceedings because the grounds sound really upsetting but I suppose I can't think like that because they are the facts. It's like your posts. Bullying/intimidating behaviour, accusing me of moving things and throwing them away. All to do with his mental health. Obsession of buying knives and keeping them by the bed

I'm going to have difficulty finding the money to pay for a divorce although I have to somehow as I can't leave it much longer. I've got financial issues any way. We've had cards on 0% deals for various reasons but not putting anymore off just whacking £100 average off each one. So about £500. My intention is to try get them frozen so I can stay in the house another year then pay them all iff when I sell but from what I understand I'll then get black Mark's which won't drop off for 6 years and I've worked so hard to get good credit. I may just have 6o sell earlier. My husband has gone into sheltered accommodation as he is severely disabled