Tell me it gets easier to socialise?

[Levithecat]

Stbxh is away with the children on holiday. We still live together and separated about 2 months ago.

I went to a party last night and just struggled to have any fun. wanted to be glued to the few people I know closely/trust (not fun for them!), kept thinking I must be so depressing to talk to that I hid away and left early. It felt so couple-y even though it probably wasn’t.

Can someone further down the line tell me it gets better? It took a lot of guts for me to get out of the house and it felt like such a fail. Not sure if it’s better to hide away even more or make myself say yes to social things so I don’t get too isolated.

Well done on even going! I have been to 4 different social things lately and each has been different. I totally resonate to the 'clinging to people you know' feeling. For me, I am at a similar stage to you and I think because we are still living in the same house it makes it all more difficult. I have not told everyone because its exhausting to keep having that conversation but it is also exhausting to vaguely answer questions about 'how's x, is he at work?'. I think it must get easier as time goes by.

Thank you so much @MoiraNotRuby - you’re spot on, and yes only some folk are the party knew so I had all those kind of questions. Thanks for your kind words