Need to vent

[wrigglewriggles]

Been living with my ex and our children while we go through the process of selling our house. He works away so only have to put up with him at home for a week or two at a time.
We have a buyer all set to sign for the house. My (idiot) ex is now declining to sell as he's learnt that (in the country we're living) I'll get primary residency for the children as he works away which means he'll have to pay me maintenance. He refuses to pay me anything as 'I don't deserve it' and he doesn't think he should fund my new home.
Have been advised to get a lawyer. Am just so fed up the situation. I feel trapped because of his stubborn idiocy.
Deep breaths, deep breaths! Have sent messages to all the local family lawyers I can find so hopefully can talk to at least one tomorrow.
I just want a peaceful house for me and the children away from his emotional, financial and verbal abuse. Why is this so hard?

It's all about control! If he is this way the only way to go is through a solicitor.make sure you have your own bank account, keep all documents safe, take proof of assets to show the solicitor. They will advise you of what you are entitled to. If you have joint accounts move your half of the money in case he mo ex it. Mine closed down our joint account without me knowing. If a couple are in dispute the financial institution shoukd be told and they put a freeze on the account. Check what happens in your country.be prepared to stand your ground and don't waiver from what you are entitled to.

Totally all about control. You are right. But how does he get to have all this power? I just want us to move on with our lives and he's stopping it from happening. Feel powerless right now but hopefully a chat with a lawyer will give me a glimmer of hope.