To ask STBXH about redecorating co-owned family home?

[Earlgrey19]

So, we are separated and I’m still living in the family home. STBXH moved out. It hasn’t been painted in very many years and I’m wanting to paint various rooms (doing it myself), with some new colours — nothing radical, but still a change. Do you think I need to ok this with STBXH?

Are you buying the paint yourself or expecting a contribution? Yes, if you are. But no, if not. I'd just mention it after it's been done. Will he even notice?

No. Do it 👌😃

Finances haven’t been separated yet (long story) so I guess there’s a question more generally of when we ask the other when spending money. Generally neither of us asks unless it’s something big.

I'd just do it. It's not like its going to affect him or cost much.

@Earlgrey19

Finances haven’t been separated yet (long story) so I guess there’s a question more generally of when we ask the other when spending money. Generally neither of us asks unless it’s something big.

I don't know then. It'll be much easier when you've actually got own money to spend on what you like