Dropping married name and returning to maiden name?

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Its something i've been considering recently.. but will it cause issues with having different name to the kids?

Is it hard to do?

Not hard and didn’t cause any issues - it’s so common nowadays for many reasons. You can change your name by just starting to use your new (or old) one and telling everyone that’s what’s happened.

That said, I invested a pittance in a Deed Poll and got lots of copies of it, it made things easier.

I would say do absolutely everything at once: it’s easier if your name matches on all your documentation.

I changed back to my maiden name - I just sent proof of my marriage and divorce, it was quite easy. I've never had an issue having a different name to my children.

Has anyone used both eg married for professional life and maiden for personal?

Also interested to know if it causes a problem when travelling / taking flights

I am planning on changing my name back once the decree absolute has come through. I wish I had never changed my name but I got married young and just did the ‘done thing’. My kids are teenagers/older and they don’t seem to care either way!

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I am planning on changing my name back once the decree absolute has come through. I wish I had never changed my name but I got married young and just did the ‘done thing’. My kids are teenagers/older and they don’t seem to care either way!

same here.. and strangely, when we first seperated i wasn't bothered either way, but its been a fewe years now (waiting on the 5yrs because its easier) and more and more i'm thinking of myself back under my maiden name.

I did it by just asserting that I was doing it, but I have to say it was a massive pain in the arse to do: many companies demanded a huge amount of documentary proof of my maiden name, marriage certificate, decree absolute and wanted original docs so was an anxious time to send them away again and again.

If I were to do it again, I would definitely pay for deed poll and get lots of copies as pp mentioned.

I have had a different name to DS since he was a baby and me and DH got married (DS has my maiden name). Only had an issue once when coming back from Florida, they questioned him on whether we were really his parents, luckily he said yes and didn't try to be funny. I've never travelled with any other documents than his passport though.

I never changed my name anyway but at one point my two children had different names to both each other and me. It's caused one mini problem-ette when travelling once but that was right after Madeline McCann went missing.

The only thing that people ever said was "don't you want to have the same name as your children though?" And I said "they have the same name as their dad and I want to have the same name as my dad too". My dad passed away and he was my hero. I want his name. Not the name of the ex, someone I loathe.

When I changed my name back to maiden name it didn’t cause problems exactly but when arriving into a foreign country my youngest dc, who does get very anxious and would have been age 12 and upwards, hated being asked by any big burley “scary” officer whether I was really her mum. She’d get really worried about it beforehand but of course it was fine, they always let us through.

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Has anyone used both eg married for professional life and maiden for personal?

Yes, I do this. I needed to check with my profession’s governing body that this was ok first.